Best Friend Circle

Good Morning Chikas! 

Several years ago I took a speech class and my teacher so wisely said, "Every person has a circle of people that they let into their little world.  There are only 3 people that you can be genuinely close with at a time and that's okay!  Those people will change over time, so take a look at your life and write down who those current people are for you."

As I pressed my pencil to the blank page I realized how many people I am only acquaintances with.  I call these people my "friends", but our interactions are too formal for them to be considered close friends in my internal circle.  I eventually came up with my list and it wasn't a surprise at all.  The people I chose are people I'm closest with in my life--people I can tell my innermost thoughts to.

Today I decided to take on the challenge again and realized that some people have changed since I last made my list.  I challenge you all to make a list of your own.  I'm all about personal growth and realization--this activity will give you an idea of who your best friends are.  

Katie Walker aka Shanaynay aka Katie Dos:

Katie and I became friends in our Spanish class when we were Sophomores in high school (I didn't realize until later that she thought I was weird when we met as Freshmen).  I sat behind her in class and since we were both named Katie, the teacher got confused as to who was who.  We started off being "Katie 1" and "Katie 2", "Katie Front Desk" and "Katie Back Desk", but eventually we just decided to go with Shanaynay and Shaniqua (I'm Shaniqua!).  That year, Katie Dos was born.  We did just about everything together and we were in the same group of friends.

Now, almost 8 years later, we are still very close.  I had the honor of being in her wedding and getting to stand next to her on her special day.  She is married to a wonderful guy and they just bought a beautiful house!  I couldn't be more proud of her and her many accomplishments.  God has blessed her and I know He will continue to do so!  Love you, best friend!

Momma:

There are so many girls that aren't close with their Moms and I'm glad to say I'm not one of them.  My mom has been there for everything in my life and I know she will as long as she is able.  I don't have a story about how I met my Mom for obvious reasons, but I do know that her pregnancy was miserable and she almost died in childbirth.    

The death of my Grandmama has brought us closer together.  We have to be strong for each other and be a shoulder to cry on in weakness.  In my last blog post I discussed different ways people cope with a loss--my mom is in the "touchy" category.  So, I'm trying my best to make sure my mom gets what she needs to deal with this great loss we are all feeling.  I don't know if I'm helping her a lot, but I'm trying my best.

I love my Mom and I would do anything in the world for her.

Ryan:

Last but not least is the love of my life, Ryan.  We have been through so much while we have been together, but I wouldn't change that for anything.  Every trial that we have faced has made us better people and built our personal characters.  In the year and 9 months that we have been together I have learned so much about myself and how the world works.  Long distance relationships aren't a picnic; however, when you love the person and you want to be better for them--everything seems to fall into place. 

Even if I hate to admit it, he is the reason I figured out what I wanted to study at school, he is the reason I've matured quickly (even if he still acts like a 12 year old boy, but then again all men act like little boys) and he is the reason I started this blog.  Ryan makes me want to be a better person and he wants to be better for me.  Personal betterment along with friendship are both very important in any relationship. 

Who are the three people in your innermost circle? Comment or send me an email!