Today's post is going to be more of a rant, so I'm sorry in advance. I hope I don't step on any toes once again!
Recently I've seen a lot of MilSOs putting their friends in "normal" relationships on blast. They seem to think that because these girls see their man every day they don't have a right to be upset when their man goes away for any length of time. Today, I'm going to try and help my MilSO friends overcome these feelings:
Perspective
She may see her boyfriend every day, but that doesn't give you license to belittle her when her man goes away for a weekend, week, etc. You could be sitting complaining about not having seen your man in 6 months when there are other ladies who haven't seen their man in a year or more. Before you judge girls in "normal" relationships for complaining, think about other ladies who have it worse than you. Your situation could always be worse! Try to keep that in mind next time you see a post about a friend's boyfriend or hubby going away for any length of time.
I would encourage you to enlighten your friends as to how everyone's situation could be worse--whether you're in a "normal" relationship or in a relationship with someone in the military. Just remember, don't attack--enlighten.
Understanding
I tend to use the word "ignorant" a lot when speaking of girls who are in "normal" relationships. Ignorant has a negative connotation, but I'm not meaning it in a negative way. The definition Merriam-Webster gives us is:
The second definition is how I'm meaning for the word to be taken: Unaware, Uninformed. That's all your friends in "normal" relationships know, so why do we always feel the need to bash the fact that they get to see their men every day? It's not fair of us to get upset with them for being unaware of our circumstances.
Keep Scrolling
Let's face it, most of our frustrations come from Facebook and other social media. Either you like what you see, or you don't. My mother always said to me "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!" So, when it comes to Social Media you just have to...
Listen to Dory, people! Social media has enough drama already without all of us MilSOs getting into it with others as well as each other.
Hopefully this was thought-provoking and eye-opening.
Until next time!
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